1. Often when I share the journey with people, when I start to talk about feelings, I get some blanket ones that cover the whole spectrum of feelings we can feel – shit/crap/down/fucked.  I so relate to this and exploring the world of feelings was another one of those clouds opening and aha moments/chapters for me, because there are so many clues in what we feel, and then we can take the steps to work with them.
  2. You may hear advice to tell your feelings/inner critic to fuck off, I am not okay with that.  For me it is a part of who I am and I want to love the whole of me.  I want to understand these feelings and work with them.
  3. Underneath our red zone feelings are unmet needs, and again when I started working with that idea, I was able to take my power back and able to identify the steps I could take to help heal and help take some of the intensity away from the feelings, so they were no longer so raw.
  4. Recently someone I was coaching shared that they have now been brave enough to look after the rug.  I paused.  They went on to say that they had shoved so much under there in the past, and were now in a place to actually go there, visit the stuff, feel the feelings and work through them.
  5. I didn’t know at the time, but if I knew what it meant to feel what needed to be felt, jeepers growing up years would have been easier.  All I knew was that it felt uncomfortable/shit/horrid and so I drank.  I drank and then ended up in situations that weren’t wholesome, spent more money, ate more crap, sent text messages that I regretted, it went on.
  6. When I stopped drinking one of the outcomes was that I needed to learn how to feel, I needed to understand what the feelings were that were coming up.  I needed to navigate my way through them and release them.
  7. This wasn’t easy or comfortable to begin with, but over time I rolled with the fact that although the feelings were uncomfortable, they were ‘just’ physical sensations in my body.  
  8. I often write about and talk more often about the importance of releasing what is coming up.  As a society we are often expected to get on with stuff, suck it up, harden up etc, but that’s not helpful and just causes us to pile on the trapped stuff within our body, so that when we do get a valve of release, a torrent explodes whether that be verbal, physical, aimed at ourselves or others.
  9. When we are able to feel more often and regularly we can work through those feelings at the time.
  10. I also often talk about how this allows us then to take our power back, to absolutely feel what needs to be felt, and then move on.

 

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