MY STORY

During the break up of a relationship back in the UK, we were getting counselling, and my partner at the time came back from his one day and said we are in a codependent relationship. I wasn’t having it. I could totally see how he was dependent on me, but not the other way around. It was only later on and well after we had split up, that I could see I was dependent on him for my self-worth and esteem.

I didn’t feel like I fitted in at school. I struggled and this knocked the confidence that I had when I was younger. To try and cover up this wound of not being good enough, I turned to people and relationships. After this break-up, I immersed myself in work. Reaching that breakdown point, I did my best (unwittingly) to avoid dealing with anything, by coming away travelling, where my third bandaid of alcohol came in.

During this time I had been doing a lot of self-development but wasn’t able to let go of the alcohol. It was when I was at the bottom of the third bottle of wine one day, I asked myself what I was trying to escape from. The answer came back loud and clear. Life. That… finally was my turning point.

And that hit me…

I was living north of Auckland at the time and decided to get on the road for more travels. I gave up my rented accommodation, gave most of my stuff away and a couple of months later hit the road. Destination Unknown. Just wanted to be free and wing life for a while. It wasn’t a journey of soul searching, it was more a journey of self love.

It was then that things really started to change.

During our younger years we can pick up stories and beliefs about ourselves that aren’t kind or helpful. These can then stick around, causing us to sabotage potentially the very things we are wanting or needing because we believe we are not worthy or don’t deserve whatever it may be. The gremlins we may hear could be telling us that we are not smart enough, not pretty enough, not tall enough or it could be too much, failure, stupid and from that we can feel wrong, broken, unloveable and then ultimately unworthy. Underneath them all is that feeling of not being enough. The Enoughness Project is about raising the voice of the cheerleaders to help us build a quiet sense of groundedness and confidence within, a feeling that yes, we are absolutely enough…

The story that played out the loudest for me has been “I’m wrong and I get things wrong.” It took me a long time to get to the point of realising that, actually, there was nothing wrong with me, and that we all make mistakes, that is part of being human, it doesn’t mean that I am wrong, that I am flawed or broken.

Through the journey that Liz has been on and through sharing the journe with many others, she created The Enoughness Model that was the golden thread that brought her other learnings together. From this, Liz has created The Enoughness Project that contains many different ways of helping people to build the connection with their true self, their self-worth, their confidence and their enoughness.