MY STORY

During the break up of a relationship back in the UK, we were getting counselling, and my partner at the time came back from his one day and said we were in a codependent relationship. I wasn’t having it. I could totally see how he was dependent on me, but not the other way around. It was only well after we had split up, that I could see I was dependent on him for my self-worth.

I didn’t feel like I fitted in at senior school. I struggled and this knocked the confidence that I had when I was younger. To try and cover up this wound of not being good enough, I turned to people and relationships. After this break-up, I immersed myself in work. Reaching that breakdown point, I did my best (unwittingly) to avoid dealing with anything, by coming away travelling, where another bandaid of alcohol came in.

Fast forward and after being on my healing journey for a while, I got to a point where I realised no more mindset tools were going to help. I needed something else. Life really started to change when I started to look after my nervous system and started to release the feeling of not being enough that lives in our body.

During our younger years we can pick up stories and beliefs about ourselves that aren’t kind or helpful. These can then stick around, causing us to sabotage potentially the very things we are wanting or needing because we believe we are not worthy or don’t deserve whatever it may be. The gremlins we may hear could be telling us that we are not smart enough, not pretty enough, not tall enough or it could be too much, failure, stupid and from that we can feel wrong, broken, unloveable and then ultimately unworthy. Underneath them all is that feeling of not being enough. The work that I do is about raising the voice of the cheerleaders to help us build a quiet sense of groundedness and confidence within, a feeling that yes, we are absolutely enough…

The story that played out the loudest for me has been “I’m wrong and I get things wrong.” It took me a long time to get to the point of realising that, actually, there was nothing wrong with me, it was just what my gremlins had made me believe.

Through this journey that I have been on, through writing A Heart That Broke Free and through sharing the journey with many others, I created and share The Enoughness Model that became the golden thread that brings different pieces of the puzzle together. From this, I created The Enoughness Project. A movement that contains many different ways of helping people to build the connection with their true self, their self-worth, their confidence and their enoughness.